Re-Relationships Pt.2


I’m just going to flat out say it… Outside of your relationship with God, your relationship with you is the most important relationship you have! I remember comedian Kat Williams saying, “you have to be in tune with your star player” in one of his comedy specials. It’s so true… In fact, most of the time, your relationships with others can be strained or even destroyed because of the relationship you have with yourself. Trust, you are influenced more by what “your star player” thinks about yourself than by what anyone else thinks about you.

Initially, I worried about how others perceived me in my chair. Wondering if I would be taken seriously or be treated as an equally knowledgeable person since I’m labeled “dis—abled”. I knew I would not have an issue with those who know me, but what about new people? Would they feel sorry, pity, or just never look past the chair to see “me”. In reality, those were questions revealing the doubt I had in my star player. The mirror was really saying, “Are you happy with how you look now… in a chair? Why do you have self pity? Can you even see past being wheelchair bound yourself?” 

You also maybe going through a period of self doubt, whether it’s with your career or in your personal life. It may even be affecting relationships in both areas. 

Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’

Matthew 22:37–39 NIV

It’s often easier to focus on loving God, and even others. With not nearly enough emphasis on loving yourself. It is essential, that you understand the value of embracing God’s love for you and how that translates into love for yourself.

Before you can start working on relationships with others, you need to start with the person in the mirror. 

Sure… You fall short of HIS high standards daily, but HE is always willing to give mercy and grace to you. Helping you fulfill the special purpose HE designed for you. Look back in that mirror and say, “I love me even though I don’t have it all together, because HE loves me without having it all together. HE loves me with my flaws, so I love me with my flaws. God loves me and all my issues, so I love me with all my issues. My baggage doesn’t define me, because HE doesn’t define me by my baggage.”

If you don’t love your star player, you are actually negating the fact that God loves you. How HE Perceives you… dedicated, fully capable, precious, a true one-of-a-kind treasure. In your relationship, HE’s the coach and your the MVP. An MVP so valuable that the pain and sacrifice of Jesus was needed to show just how worthy you are.